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in my last two we use I had doctor about toxic relationship emotion aspects of a toxic relationship and what other things to look out for If you find yourself in a toxic relationship what can be done and what next in this video I would like to talk about after a toxic relationship What next If you after ending a toxic relationship what other things to look out for What can you expect or what are the things that you can do to make sure that you are OK in this emotional process here were gonna do is were gonna start looking at certain thought patterns Were going to start looking at certain polices individual might have after a toxic relationship So before we go into this thought patterns it is important for the person for the individual toe allowed to allow yourself to some time to make sure that youre able to deal with that youre able to come out of this process Being in a toxic relationship was not at all easy was extremely extremely difficult and you need to allow yourself and you need to give yourself before anything to make sure that youre okay to make sure that youre able to deal with this emotional process as you giving yourself some time It is also important that you are able to talk about maybe one of your friends or your family Somebody who you feel can you feel comfortable Somebody who you feel that you can trust somebody who may be able do not completely understand but at the same time make you know someday whos able to understand as which is a as much as they can So its really important that you are allowing yourself to open up to somebody at this point right coming to the thought patterns one of the first thought pattern of one of the first belief system a person might have They may feel that they are wrong or they did something wrong by leaving the relationship as much as we may not want to accept it For a person in a toxic relationship they might have fun or they may have found off sense of security are a sense off comfort or a sense off you know prediction that relationship So it is after the after the relationship is over it is quite easy or it is easy for a person for an individual to go back to that sense of comfort to go back to a sense of security that they found in that toxic urination So one of the initial thoughts one of the initial dark patterns that this at this stage can be they did something wrong by leaving the relationship Are they done something more or they could give a little more time to make things work So at this point of time its very border to understand that you do not do anything wrong by leaving the relationship Leaving the relationship just means that you make an effort to make sure you understand what is happening to you and to make sure you make sure you do something about the current relationship It just means that you decided to make sure that you start to respect your feelings and emotions and understand what was happening in board is happening to you That it is very important and it is very important to acknowledge that would not go to the talk back I believe the dark pattern that you did something wrong by giving the relationship you did not do anything wrong or the individual not do anything wrong by leaving the list It says that you were able to understand what was happening and now by ending it you decided to do something about one of a second dark bad or second belief system that a person might have You know they may feel that they are everything They are defined by what their partners said about them or the way the bottom behaved behaved towards that So there may be a I was aspect that endures It might feel that you know they are defined by that partners toxic partners words and behavior As we understood the first aspect it is also important to understand that you are not defined by your partners words or youre not defined by your partners Behaviour right in a toxic relationship maybe from your partner from him or there can be a certain times you may be defined in a certain way You maybe put in a box in a different way in a in a certain way you maybe they may use sort of statements against you So negative statement against you in a certainly being being in that relationship listening to it consistent make you feel that you are all of those things and you are defined by those things But here as you have come or if it as you have no let that cool its very bottom to understand that you let it go from your own cell phones It is not easy It is not an easy process But we need to make sure that your you understand and acknowledge the fact that youre definitely not defined by your partners Whats our behavior right It is ready bottom to understand that because it is also can come in the initial stages off after breaking up off breaking off talks of relationship that you may feel that you are completely are are defined by their words and behavior but which is not at all true Third thing is to make sure you understand why you left the relationship Because as we said before there is a sense of comfort and security that you may still see right after even though after and even after ending the list so it is very important that you dont go back to it and to make sure that you dont go back to it its very important that you understand why Leicester Why was it important for you to beat that But if you can no dont If you can point it out to make sure that you tell yourself as a conviction not to go back to it Its very very important because you need to understand why you left the relationship or why you had to leave the relationship which is very important so that you may not go back to what was what was happening Fourth aspect is this This is a stark baton What I would suggest I would ask you to keep right Not rather than something that can come to you Its a something bad that I would ask you to keep it to understand that you deserve to be respected that you deserve to be loved for who you are in a relationship right You deserve to be respect for your emotional aspect You deserve to be respected for who you are in the nation so its important to understand and acknowledge the fact that you deserve to be respected But whatever happened in the relationship does not define you as a person thats not defining the weight of Boston should treat It is very important to understand that you are definitely you deserve to be treated with respect because at this point of time that can also be thought that will you ever find love again over the person will ever find Actually I will ever find true So its important to acknowledge and accept the fact that yes in time when youre ready you will find the person who will respect you Treat do for you treat you better for the person you are But before that it is important to acknowledge wrecked that You know you deserve to be treated with respect and you deserve to be treated with love and you deserve to be respected and loved for who you are It is very boring to acknowledge it is very important to accept Right Next X aspect is something that you have learned from the lesions as you have Comoran that come out of the relationship right As you have understood a lot of things in the relationship from the relationship it is also important to understand Maybe when youre ready when you are coming out I mean youre going from maybe are looking for a new release you understand What is it that youre looking for What is it that you want right What is it that you learned from the relationship And what are you looking for in your party As you understand certain things that you are looking for you also understand certain things that you should be aware off should be so Its very important that you also know dont understand what other things that you are actually looking for Work you what other things which are really important for you in a relationship which is anybody right And last right which is very similar to the first point that you have to give yourself some time You need to make sure youre not Youre not pushing yourself Youre not forcing yourself to do something or feel something that you dont want to respond Toxic relationship is hard It takes time to come off It emotionally takes time to come out So its very important that you do not push yourself or do not force yourself to do something Youre not allow somebody else also to push you to force you to do something You dont want it Self care is very very important You need to make sure that youre eating well You may need to make sure that your are sleeping properly at the same time you need to make sure engaging in certain activities that you can do At this point you dont have to force yourself to do something Push yourself to do something as much as you can do as much as you are able to do Its very border right and at the same time making sure that your you have any motion support talking to your friend or somebody who you feel you can trust letting them know what is happening Making sure youre not suppressing any of the feelings Opening up about talking about it is very very right So s I end this uh session I just wanna make sure that you understand and know that you know as I said before toxic relationship is hard Its definitely hard to be definitely hard when you werent the relationship and its quite hard to deal with it out after But the important thing is you understand that you deserve to be respected and you deserve to be treated with respect and you deserve to be treated with love And also um I hope this video helps And I want to thank you for watching my seniors on toxic relationship And I hope it didnt help and thank you so much